Marriage: A Threesome Experience

Marriage can only work as a “threesome experience.” 

OK, please hear me out for a minute.

Single women in Muslim countries often express an interest to become the “third person” in an established marriage, e.g., a second wife, perhaps believing that the right concept is to be honorable and responsible, and bring all desired intimate relationships within the institution of marriage. 

Satan, the author of all lies and deception, inverts God’s right concept about marriage as a threesome experience.  Rather, what is needed is to have the concept right and to understand God’s original intention.

Marriage was created by God and, like everything else He established, can ONLY work the right way if it's HIS way.  The reason for the high divorce rates in the world is that we are all trying it "My Way!" -- OUR way.  This high rate is evidence of the failure of our way.  His way is that marriage be a threesome experience:  man + woman + God. 

Only as man and woman are "married" to God

first and continually, through Christ,

can they be "effectively" married to each other.

Bottom line:  The Holy Scripture advises, "Whatever you do, do it as unto Christ/God."  (Eph. 6:6-7).  This includes marriage.  Two imperfect people with imperfect, wounded hearts can only love imperfectly, yet we expect perfection and fairness.  One repeatedly steps on the others' toes to the point that the other begins to pull his/her feet out of the way!  Fear, hurt, resentment, anxiety, anger set in.  Alone-ness follows, leading to adultery and idolatry of the mind and heart, and eventually to sin and its deathly cold, lingering wages. 

The answer is a three-way marriage in which both persons are initially married to God/Christ, then to each other, and committed to loving each other so as, not to please each other, but to please God - putting a smile on HIS face.  It is tough to do this and, at the same time, expect fairness and to be loved perfectly in a marriage.  Indeed, these concepts may not be applicable in a three-way marriage. 

Before getting engaged to be married, practice being married to Christ!  Accept the Spirit of Christ as your “wife and husband,” and through that relationship, allow Him to TEACH you how to be married and how to live in a marriage "as unto Him."  Then allow Him to find you a partner who is also comfortable with the idea of such a three-way marriage!  DON'T let sin – in any form, motivate, push or pull you into a marriage.  You'll regret it forever!!!  Would you deliberately plant a weed seed while planting a rose garden, knowing that weed will out-grow and eventually choke the roses?!

When I was a boy growing up, my widowed God-Mother used to testify frequently during church services, "I am married to Jesus!"  Admittedly, as a young lad, I had problems understanding this concept.....until I personally became divorced.  wOw!, what a revelation. 

While the concept of a three-way marriage may sound strange at first glance, I invite you to re-read and reflect on the above insights … prayerfully.  If you are already married, consider how you might expand and engage the Spirit of Christ in the “tent of your marriage.”